Can a Committed Couple Have a Threesome?

David Eddie hears from a married couple who want to invite a third person into their bedroom.

Writing in the Globe and Mail, David Eddie hears from a married couple who want to invite a third person into their bedroom.  The husband writes:

I've been married to the love of my life for the past 20 years and thought myself fulfilled in almost every way. A few months ago, I met someone I was strongly attracted to. Then I found out my wife is also attracted to her. And this person is attracted to both of us. I feel that I've uncovered this whole new side to me that I want to explore. After discussing the situation extensively, we all have a similar understanding of what we want and expect. But, of course, it's complicated. 1) My wife and I have a child. 2) It's possible one of us will always feel like the third wheel. 3) I worry about the other woman’s emotional stability (even though she assures us it's fine). 4) We live in a smaller community and I'm concerned we'd be seen in a negative light. Despite all this, my heart and my lower brain are both egging me on. Ugh, what a fun mess to be in. What do you think, should I go for it or not?

Eddie responds:

Threesomes are obviously a fantasy for many men – one I joke about a fair bit in social situations. ...

But the truth is, I'm not really a threesome guy. Threesomes present too many daunting logistical, mechanical, and ultimately anti-erotic problems, in my view. On the most basic level, how does it work in bed? Even in porn, where you'd think they'd have the mechanics all worked out, one party in the threesome always seems uncomfortable and underemployed – a kind of onanistic assistant or glorified towel girl (or boy) to the other two.

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